I have recently finish reading this book called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. It’s available on iBooks and all major retail book sellers. The concept of it is to inform you how even though we are living in hell on Earth that we are able to live in our own heaven if we abide by these four agreements. It also talks about other great things that you should grab the book and read it and thank me later.
One of the four is to be impeccable with your word. The word impeccable means to be in accordance with the highest standards of propriety; faultless. Your word can move armies or it can destroy dynasties. The author described your word as being a two edge sword. On one side it can create a beautiful dream on the other side it can destroy everything around you. It’s hard to not be negative with your word. Especially in times when you have been hurt or someone is trying to hurt you. Think about the last time you have said something nasty to a loved one. You called them a son of a such and such or a mother of a such and such. That’s not being impeccable, use your word to bring one up not down. Also watch the things that you say to yourself. Self abuse is real. Your words of negative talk will bring you negative circumstances. The law of attraction is something that should be belived in. If you place good energy in the things around you, people, animals, even n your own space then good things will come to you. But you have to eliminate self abuse and negative self talk. Instead of saying “I’m dumb.” try “ That wasn’t a good decision but I’ll make sure next time to make a wiser one.” The abuse level that you give yourself is what you will actually take from another person. If a person says your dumb you might believe it because you have already told yourself this. CUT THAT SHIT OUT!!!! You are incredible. Even when life’s obstacles get in your way don’t ever think that you are not stellar!
The second is to don’t take anything personal. You get cut off by someone on the road. You honk then you find yourself swearing and calling him/her names. It’s not because it was you that they cut you off. It’s because they are in a rush or have some issues they are dealing with. If you sit back and think about how someone treated you nasty or did something to you that tried to hurt you, it wasn’t you that made them do those things they did them because they are dealing with their own demons. If someone calls you dumb, that’s how they feel about themselves. It doesn’t have anything to do about you and don’t let them plant that seed of negativity into your brain because then you will start to believe that and then you will tell yourself that bullshit. Nothing that other people do is because of you. ISo don’t take it personally.
The third agreement is don’t make assumptions. Something that I battle with everyday. We make assumptions of people’s behavior because they exhibit the same behavior that someone else in the past has. We begin to believe our assumptions and blame the other person even though they aren’t doing those things. We lash out and treat them harshly because of assumptions we played out in our own mind. Taking things personally and making assumptions go hand and hand. If you can stop doing one then you can stop doing the other and begin to live a live of happiness and bliss. You need to make sure to ask for clarification in all areas of your life. If you find yourself unsure ask, don’t assume. For example, your partner tells you that at the last minute that they are going out girls/guys night. You don’t remember them telling you this and you begin to assume that they didn’t tell you this because they aren’t really going to hang they are going to cheat or be decietful in some shape or fashion. So you start to say hurtful things and go against agreement number 1 (Be impeccable with your word). Now you are both in bad moods and in all reality they just really forgot to you that they was going to hang out with their friends. So if you didn’t assume the worst and let your partner leave and come back things would have went alot smoother and now you wouldn’t have to deal with a fuck-nado (like a tornado but its fucked) that you occured. Don’t assume that you aren’t good enough because someone else got that promotion you wanted. They just may have different skills then you, it doesn’t take away from your awesomeness. Don’t assume the cashier at Wendy’s snapped at you because you asked for extra sauce. (Why do they act as if the extra sauce will deducted from their pay?) You never know what people are dealing with internally and not all people are emotionally stable enough to control their emotions. I’m sure we have all heard the saying” Don’t assume because you make an ASS out of yourself.” It still applies…
The fourth agreement is to always do your best. Now that seems simple enough. You want to run, do your best at running. You want to write a book, do your best at writing that book. You want to suck dick for money and do blow, make sure that you are the best dick sucker and blow snorter that their is. Whatever you want to do, regardless of what it is do your best at it and you will be happy. There will be no space for taking things personally or making assumptions if you do your best. That is also something to practice when being impeccable with your word. Now listen sometimes we just aren’t up for it but we have to push ourselves to constantly do our best. There have been days when my alarm clock will go off and I will say “Do I gotta adult today?” Then I will get my ass up and I will go adult and make the best of my day. Having that type of positive energy will make you have a positive day. No one can get in your way but you.
I’m on a pursuit of happiness. I am finding out what things bring me joy and that give me peace. I am working on becoming a person in all areas of my life. I don’t want to be one who engages in petty arguments or even gives someone that much of my energy and time to get me upset. Or a person who says whatever out of her face. Someone who assumes the worst without asking questions. I ESPECIALLY don’t want to be known as someone who doesn’t do her best at life. I’m making an amends to my ways so that I can use the four agreements in my daily life so that I can learn to live in my personal heaven on hell. The book is a good read and will open your third eye to a new way of thinking about things.
As always stay blessed
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